I said this on Brad's site, but I don't want to risk losing it over there.
What most people fail to understand is that argument does not come down to personalities. It is of no importance who says a thing, or in the manner it is said. It doesn't come down to who's been made uncomfortable or who's been derisive. People may hate my manner. They may hate that I swear. But what they cannot deny is that what I have to say deserves respect. Not because I'm 'a nice guy,' but because I say things that are worthwhile.
While some focus on the visceral, others are focusing on the intellectual. They don't CARE how its presented; they're so thirsty for someone to say something that's meaningful they'll take it no matter what the dipper looks like.
This leaves me free to speak in the manner that is my personality, since I am respected for what I say, not how I say it.
Those who preach that I should say things differently - more positively - are like someone explaining that I should give water in a cup instead of a dipper, as though somehow the water will be more quenching or better tasting. It's cosmetic. These are the arguments of marketing. Our society has become so sick with the process of buying and selling that even intellectual argument must be packaged and made pretty, in order for it to be palatable.
That's no way to become a person of substance.